If you experienced trauma in childhood or had a rough childhood, dude listen to me. Offer yourself play. You were deprived of it.
Keep bubbles in the house, blow bubbles in the yard, blow them in your room, get a coloring book that doesn’t have to be an adult one with mandalas, watch cartoons, laugh at stupid things, dress up as a superhero for Halloween, wear a Santa hat on Christmas and big light up snowflake earrings, lay down on the floor, lay down in the grass, eat eggos for dinner sometimes. It’s not stupid. You’re not childish. You’re giving your inner child what they had taken from them. They deserve it.
I don’t want to derail this post because it’s an important message, and OP has addressed it to the people who most need to hear it. But… can i just add, for people who don’t feel like they can give themselves permission to do this, that you can give yourself these things even if you didn’t overtly experience trauma in childhood?
Even if you never thought of your upbringing as painful or malicious, you can and should still give yourself things you missed out on. Take that class! Learn that skill! Eat the foods you like, or branch out into new ones! Jump in piles of leaves and decorate your walls the way you want them.
Give yourself the things you couldnt have as a kid, especially if you didn’t really get to have a childhood, but even if you didn’t have the childhood you wanted. Go for a bike ride with friends. Go stargazing. Whatever it was that you feel like you missed, it’s important to seek those things and remember that play and joy aren’t exclusive to childhood.
I don’t think you derailed this at all and think this was a really thoughtful addition. So thank you!
The aliens are gonna be so confused when humans first board their ships and start doing this, and by GOD I hope at least one of them is going to have a camera when it happens.
the dynamic between Goldenloin and Blackheart is just so much more complex and bitter in the comic. They’re both a lot more morally gray, and Blackheart does more than look at people with sad puppy eyes. Sure Nimona’s bitter, but he is too.
Anyway, I still love the movie, but everyone should read the comic <3
if i spent 4 hours of my day on tiktok that would be a social media addiction. if i spend 4 hours of my day on tumblr then that’s just, like. whatever. who cares. hope that helps
about a month ago, my uncle asked if I had a significant other. I appreciate his gender inclusivity, of course.
I’m used to the question. it’s not like it’s something outrageous that he’s asking. so I simply said no, that’s not for me.
he looked at me and said “well, someday.” not someday maybe, just…. someday.
of course I’m not quick to anger, but there’s a part of me that’s a little more defensive about my aroace identity. so I jumped to my defense.
my uncle isn’t a bad guy, he’s quite nice and tries his best to be respectful in the current political shit storm by supporting queer people. but apparently that does exclude me, an aroace.
I reiterated that I’m just not interested in a romantic or sexual partnership, and I really do not ever see that changing.
and he said something to the effect of “it’s okay if you don’t want that now.”
and I said, “no, it’s just okay that I don’t want that.”
and he said that I was pessimistic. as if I was secretly searching for a relationship or a partner, but was rejecting love because I could not find one.
I calmly (with all the rage in my veins) told him “no, a life without love or sex is something optimistic for me.”
he had the gall to look horrified.
I’m sick of aroace people not being seen as normal human people when they don’t want the outcome of their life to look like everyone else’s. I’m sick of the white picket fence, I’m sick of the assumption that everyone has another half out there.
